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Self Care

Ok, sorry guys, I know I got off track on my schedule...I'm working on it. 

So art. And life. Yeah. 

Seriously, I am exhausted. But a good kind of exhausted I guess. Sometimes if doesn't feel very good, but I remember that I am tired because I am working so hard on my art and that makes me feel better. However, there is such a thing as working too hard. 

Yesterday I was in Fort Worth for 12.5 hours. About 10 of which was spent in the studio or getting supplies. I did get to set stuff on fire, so that's good. Got a little overheated at one point (not during the fire part, surprisingly); as many of you know I am very heat-sensitive. But I managed. It was a productive day. 

And yet I didn't feel like it at the end. 

That's the problem with a perfectionist mindset. 
You can't ever do anything "right" because you can't do it all in one day. I guess when you struggle with your self-esteem and believing in yourself, you can be pretty hard on yourself in the process of a project. Today, I have decided to rest. Trust me, I planned on doing a lot of hard work today, but that just wasn't going to happen. (I'm surprised I am even up for writing this.) I had to pull my car over in a parking lot after a midmorning appointment today and take a nap because I felt unsafe to drive. That's the amount of tired I'm talking about. 

Sometimes we just desperately need a day off. And I have learned before and am continuing to learn that that is okay. Self-care and self-love is not selfish.
Here, buy the shirt: 
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I am sure that if people genuinely took better care of themselves, we would live in a much happier world. People who take care of themselves are more productive, more joyful, and much nicer. Self-care can involve little things and small acts that tell yourself that you are worth it. I'm not saying go crazy and spend all your money on yourself. Self-care is about being wise and gracious with yourself. If you do something in the name of self-care that will cause you distress later, it doesn't count. Sometimes just giving yourself permission to take a power nap is what you need. 

One of the important things about self-care is that at the end of the day, you can't regret it. Let yourself be loved by yourself. 

As I work towards this wonderful art show, I am having to be nice to myself even when I don't want to be. I want to be that tough boss or teacher that convinces you to run the extra 4 miles at the end of a long day, just so you can accomplish more. And sometimes that may be necessary. But I don't want myself or any of you to be drained and burned out with life. 

Learn to care for yourself. You're worth it.

Ideas for self-care:

Take a bath

Take a nap

Clean your desk/room

Buy yourself a nice cup of coffee and have some chill time

Eat a scoop of ice cream

Paint your nails...or a wall

Clean your sheets for a fresh night's sleep 

Take yourself out to dinner

Buy yourself a new exciting book to read for fun

Watch your favorite TV show

Cook yourself an organic dinner

Have the glass of wine 

Go to a museum and look at beautiful things 

Hold hands with someone (but don't try that with a stranger) 

Get a massage 

Get a pedicure

Journal how you feel and don't judge yourself 

Finger paint 

Play with play dough

Read your favorite children's book. (If you need a suggestion: What do you do with an idea? by: Kobi Yamada)

Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you love yourself and that you are beautiful

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20/20 Vision for 2020

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20/20 Vision for 2020

I try to keep my life in perspective. You know, have a 20/20 sort of vision when it comes to my life picture. Specifically, I have an actual 2020 vision for that exact year.

Sometimes it is hard having a dream that goes that far out, but I just patiently wait...just kidding, I’m not very patient. But I’m working on it!

So the story about my 2020 dream comes from a very general dream that my best friend, DeLane, and I have about owning a coffee shop/art studio together. We are both creative, although in different ways, and we love the culture of sitting and drinking tea or coffee and having quality time together. What led to a 2020 vision, was that - and this is literally the story - I was driving past a small veterinary hospital and they were announcing that their anniversary was going on that year in 2015, for like 20 years or something big. And I had the thought...that is so aesthetically pleasing to have your big year anniversaries be on a number that ends in 5 or 0. I gave it some thought… and the more I thought about it, the more I liked that idea.

 

Seriously, this is how I make decisions.

 

Not the little ones, just the really big, life-altering ones, apparently.

 

I called up DeLane and said, okay, what do you think about working towards opening our shop in 5 years. That gives us time to save up and get ready and establish our lives a little bit, but it’s not so far in the future that we would lose track of the vision. She agreed, strangely, that the year 2020 seemed like a good plan to open our coffee house/art studio shop.

 

And so my mind went racing.

 

Okay, I have 5 years to go. I need to get my life going and figure things out and get a plan. As I was heavily dwelling on these thoughts, my art was thrown away and the dream of this blog and my art show came together in my mind.

 

I thought, “that’s perfect!” I can do an art show in 2016, build the blog meanwhile. Work at work. And then. And then. And then. There was so much involved. So many ideas.

Before I knew it, I had a whole outline of possibilities for things to do and line up in between then and 2020. Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe in planning out every detail of your life. I agree with the old saying, “When we make plans, God laughs.” So I am open to things changing and the possibilities of new and different ideas. But having a general idea of where I am going has helped me to stay focused and get ready and be persistent.

Also, along with all of this, I have felt content, mostly, and able to accept the flow of life. Because although I am not planning every detail or every last second, I have a broad sense of where I am headed. (And to Colorado, no less. That is important.)

 

Along with this vision, I felt like I needed to stay where I was, in Texas (unfortunately), until it was time to move forward with the plan of putting the shop into action. And although I do not like Texas, I have felt reassured in many aspects that there are good and important reasons why I am where I am.

 

(Now, when I say I don’t like Texas, don’t freak out if you are a Texan. Just understand that I am very, very, very warm natured. I sweat in the winter. So being in Texas...especially like right now, when it’s summer, is really not ideal for me. Also, I have allergies in Texas, but none in Colorado. A lot of people would say that is a big enough sign to move. And...I love the snow and the cold and the mountains and the healthier lifestyle and my friends that live there. So, I hope that all makes sense and no feeling are hurt.)


While staying here, I have connected with some important people in my life that I know I was meant to meet with. I feel like staying here has been the right decision so far and I look forward to see what all happens with my life in Texas. And the fact that I love quite a few people down here, makes it easier to stay. If I didn’t have such amazing people in my life, I probably would not feel as adamant about staying. The people we have in our lives make a word of difference.

So why are you where you are in life? Do you have something you are working towards? What are your dreams and visions?

I would love to hear your stories and share life together!

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